by Dinakin Kayode, dyna
Take a pause in your life and try to ponder on the way you are bringing up your children. What message are you directly and indirectly sending to them? Are you buying them exorbitant phones at a young age where their minds are still fragile and easily persuasive? Are you a hard drinker indirectly passing the gene to your unborn child? Are you too busy trying to make money or too broke to discipline your child in the right way. How many scriptures in the Bible do your children have at hand? As it is written, what you sow you would reap. You cannot sow orange seed and reap apple fruit. Begin to sow the right seeds in the life of your children. Yes, we are to expose our children to things of the world so they won't get exposed by the wrong hands. But how are we executing this responsibility of exposing them to the dangers of the world?
Parents are Children's first teachers and home is their first school. Teach them not to look down on anybody or under estimate anyone. I am privileged to have parents who are willing to surrender their all on the expense of their children. Is this the type of parent you should be? yes. After God, your children should be your next priority because they are your legacy. You should be a parent that your children can speak of with total confidence wherever they are. Let's just take a U-turn to where I made mention that parents are the ones to expose their children to things of the world so they wouldn't be misled by the wrong peers. This could be a difficult plight for most parents due to the fact that there may be no perfect rapport with their children. What kind of relationship do you have with your children?That's why when most children are now left to mingle with friends and are no more guarded by the wings of their parents, they tend to mess up, big time. That's where you see young children drinking addictively, tattooing their bodies, joining bad gangs and committing all sort of vices. It all starts from somewhere.
How should you go about the ish of exposing your children appropriately? Establish a perfect rapport with them. At this, there would be this trust they tend to develop in talking happening things with you. learn to speak your children's language. Know how to operate an iPhone 7. There are some parents who cannot even operate a phone, so how do you expect your children to have the confidence that you are conversant with things they are facing. If you were chanced to read my previous article on impacting your generation positively, I made mention of the fact that you can joke but in a way that you are not loosing your value. Frequently joke with your children but to a certain level. When a good rapport is established, you can easily advice them on their current problems they are facing. But if you don't have the knowledge of the things they know, when you try advising them, they tend to ask themselves what does this man/woman know. Be the 'wassup' parent for the sake of your children. You should be the kind of parent that's grounded with the word of God and as well conscious of happenings around you. Be the disciplined kind of parent. You shouldn't be driving in your car while your child who was originally sitting at the back seat starts finding his way to the front and all you do is nothing. Scold them when necessary. They may cry and get pissed with you but let them know that they can't have their way in everything.
I was privileged to witness such scenario few weeks ago. On a faithful day, i happened to be in the car with my dad. There was a bit of an hold up, so usual me was chatting and doing stuffs like that until i decided to take a break and feed my eyes with other things. Then i stumbled upon the unthinkable. Guess what it was. To relieve you of mental stress, i saw a car, three women at the back, between the ages of 50-65, a woman was sitting at the front passenger's seat. I assume in her early 30s whom i guess is the wife of the man driving. What was actually the shocker? A small girl between ages 6-9 was in between the legs of the man. I was like omg!!! I'm so sure you can relate with the kind of expression on my face and it was like everything was perfect because the expression on their faces was relaxing. I couldn't help but draw the attention of my dad. He was so bitter, i mean, almost like he should wind down the window and scold the man. I don't think i need to list the dangers of this act. Don't let your child dictate to you and you just accept all in the name of trying to be an understanding parent. Discipline them and teach them the right way.
I urge every parent lucky enough to come across this article to check yourself vividly, and also check the lives of your children to see whether they are in the right track or not. Do these before it gets too late. After assessing, if you realise you've made a mistake from the foundation by not teaching them the good norms of life, there's only one option left. What's that one option that can can bring back your lost child??? God can, only if you wholeheartedly ask Him to. Finally to aspiring parents, please and please reshapen your lifestyle in a way you would love your children to see and follow likewise.
Stay Blessed...
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